Why Valentines Day?

This Valentine’s Day I'm wiser than the last. I'm reminded that relationships are simply relationships. There is no such thing as a ‘wonderful couple’ or a ‘terrible couple’. There are simply ‘couples’. Man and Woman united by chance or by choice and fated to spend the rest of their lives together for better or for worse. The better being like the icing on the cake when two people get to experience many firsts and get to know each other and be fascinated by everything that is new. The newness of it all seems enthralling and it seems like this is what all the books and fairy tales talk of what love it. On the other side, once the better is over, the worse creeps in. You realize that all the icing is over and all that remains is the ugly cake with all the icing licked off. You can simply throw the ugly cake away, but you don’t. The cake isn't really a cake without the icing and the icing doesn't have any use whatsoever without the cake either. It’s the best and the worst of both that make it count and it is here that the couple have to take their litmus test. They need to choose on what to do with the cake. Surprisingly, many a times I've seen couples who seem like the world’s least compatible people and still living with each other, waking up next to each other, yelling at each other yet spotted at occasionally dinner dates with each other. Speaking bad things about each other, yet moving over and saying good stuff when someone starts to bad mouth their spouses. It all seems so contradictory, but word- It’s a fact. And it takes effort. To hate someone and yet love them at the same time.

That is why we celebrate Valentine’s Day I think. If Mothers day’s and Father’s day are celebrated to honour the hard work and effort a mom and dad fulfil in their responsibilities of raising their children, Valentine’s day is in fact in honour to acknowledge the hard work a couple put into keeping their relationship work and let the boat sail even though it has like a billion leaks and holes. If I had a glass and if these was some wine, I would raise a toast this valentine’s day to all the married couple all across the planet, both happy couples and sad, all the grumpy ones and the lovey dovey ones- each and every couple, who took a wedding vow in front of God to stick with each other for better or for worse and are giving their shot not matter how hard at making it work at better times and worst. Happy Valentine’s Day!